Self-Love Education

Don’t kill the vibe: A guide to overcoming vibrator anxiety with your partner

Don’t kill the vibe: A guide to overcoming vibrator anxiety with your partner

It's no secret that vibrators have been a game-changer in the world of self-pleasure and self-care. They provide a convenient and effective way to explore our bodies and reach new heights of pleasure. However, for some people, the idea of introducing a vibrator into the bedroom with a partner can bring up feelings of anxiety or apprehension.


At Freya, we believe that everyone deserves to feel comfortable and confident in their sexual experiences, whether solo or with a partner. That's why we want to address this issue and offer some tips on how to overcome vibrator anxiety in a relationship.

First off, it's important to understand that vibrator anxiety is a common concern for many people. It can stem from a variety of sources, such as insecurity about one's own body or sexual performance, or fear of rejection from a partner. But the good news is that these fears can often be addressed and overcome with open and honest communication.



One of the most important things you can do is have a conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. This can be a difficult step, but it's essential for establishing a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship. Explain why you're interested in using a vibrator and what you hope to gain from the experience. Be honest about any insecurities you may have and listen to your partner's thoughts and feelings as well.


It's also important to remember that everyone's comfort level with vibrators is different. Some people may feel shy or uncomfortable at first, while others may be eager to explore and embrace the experience. No matter what your partner's stance is, it's essential to be respectful and non-judgmental. Remember that this is a shared experience and your goal is to find a solution that works for both of you.


One approach that can be helpful is to start slowly and gradually introduce the vibrator into your sexual routine. Perhaps begin by using it during foreplay or incorporating it into manual stimulation. This allows both partners to get comfortable with the new sensation and explore the different ways in which it can enhance the experience.


Another approach is to try using the vibrator together, exploring each other's bodies and finding new ways to bring pleasure to one another. By using the vibrator together, you can experience the sensation and share in the pleasure together. This can also be a great opportunity to learn more about each other's bodies and what feels good to each of you.

In conclusion, it's important to remember that everyone's sexual journey is unique and there is no right or wrong way to explore your desires. By having open and honest communication, exploring different approaches and being respectful of each other's comfort levels, you can overcome any vibrator anxiety and find new ways to bring pleasure and fulfillment to your relationship.


At Freya, we believe that choice is the most empowering encounter any woman can have. So, we encourage you to embrace your sexuality and explore the world of self-care and self-pleasure in a way that feels good to you. Whether that means incorporating a vibrator into your routine or not, the most important thing is that you feel confident, comfortable and in control of your own sexual journey.

Step by step overview; 

  1. Acknowledge it’s perfectly normal and common 
  2. Communicate, a starting conversation is the key to xxx
  3. Set up the boundaries about the conversation and know what’s comfortable level of your partners’ 
  4. Start slowly or a process both of you agree, play solo or together 
  5. Feel confident, sexy and yourself